tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-49036413234982417112024-03-04T21:25:57.443-08:00Lost in HeadspaceMcGingersnaphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01831573898644358843noreply@blogger.comBlogger68125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4903641323498241711.post-15827528857855576712019-12-29T03:07:00.001-08:002019-12-29T09:22:07.631-08:00How did you see in the year 2000?AS NYE 2019 rolls around, I'd like to tell you how, 20 years ago, I saw in the new millennium.<br />
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By mid-1999, I was a wreck. An alcoholic and coke fiend who'd hit bottom. My low point was not as bad as it is for some, but I think I can safely say that it was harsher than it was for the person I once heard in an NA meeting who described reaching desperation when she had to sell one of her polo ponies.<br />
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I started going to NA meetings. Whatever I feel about the 12 Steps, I'm pretty sure those meetings saved my life. I got clean, made friends and got some structure back into my life. Come December, I was ready to party with my new pals in the Fellowship. So I decided to go to the NA New Year party.<br />
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On NYE, I went to an evening NA meeting at Notting Hill in London. A bunch of us were heading straight from there to the party. As we turned onto the main road at Notting Hill Gate, an ambulance blue-lighted past us, sirens blaring. "Wouldn't want to be in one of those tonight", I said. How we laughed! (You can probably now guess where this is going.)<br />
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We arrived at Conway Hall to find the party already in full swing. And there, sitting at the side of the dance floor, was a girl I'd met before and found rather alluring. At the time, I was 28. She was…well, let's just say MUCH younger. Legal in my country, illegal in others. I found myself dancing with her. I had been dancing gingerly, due to an old skiing injury that sometimes made my right knee click out of place. But, eager to impress this youth, I began throwing some wilder shapes. It wasn't long before I felt the familiar crunch in my knee. I blanched and receded to the side of the hall, dragging my useless leg behind me. She carried on dancing.<br />
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"No worries," I thought. "I'll just do what I always do – click it back in and carry on." But would it click back in? Hahaha! No it would not. Eventually, I decided there was nothing else for it – I'd have to call an ambulance.<br />
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The friends I'd arrived with were nowhere to be found as I sat outside the main party area to wait for the ambulance. Two chaps I'd never met before sat either side of me with their legs out, to prevent anyone from bashing into me as they hurried past. <br />
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The ambulance came and took me away. I was on my own in the ambulance, and then on my own in a cubicle in A&E. I was thoroughly miserable. The staff at A&E took a shine to me (no doubt because I was the only sober patient they had) and decided to cheer me up at midnight, by bringing me a cup of tea and putting some party popper streamers round my neck. It helped a bit.<br />
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On 1 January 2000 I had surgery.<br />
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The moral of this story is: don't laugh at people in ambulances and/or try to get off with jailbait. Karma is a pitiless bastard. <br />
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On the other hand, I have a more memorable Millennium Eve story than most people. So I win. SCREW YOU, KARMA!McGingersnaphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01831573898644358843noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4903641323498241711.post-9949872934637287272019-08-10T13:16:00.000-07:002019-08-11T00:00:59.562-07:00An everyday tale of suburbiaDuring a heatwave several summers ago, I bought a tent to sleep in on the nights when the house was too hot for comfort.<br />
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I pitched it again a few weeks ago. Well, I say “pitched” - the pegs are flimsy pieces of metal that come out if you so much as cough in their general direction, so I didn’t bother with them this time. My body weight was enough to keep the thing stationary when I was in it. It’s been gently free-ranging around the back garden since then.<br />
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Here it is, making friends with the shed. (Yes, I know we need to get the mower out.)<br />
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Earlier this evening, Mrs McGingersnap and I were sitting in the living room, enjoying each other’s company in the traditional manner (ignoring each other while interacting with separate screen-based gadgets), when we heard a strange “phhhhfffrumph!” sound coming from outside.<br />
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We looked at each other. <br />
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“What was that?” I asked. <br />
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Even as the words left my mouth, I knew the answer. I jumped up and ran to the patio door.<br />
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Friends: not only was the tent no longer in our garden, it wasn’t in our next-door neighbours’ gardens either. Or next-door-but-one’s. Nor was it in the alley behind our house. Mrs McGingersnap has been up and down the streets and into the local allotments. <br />
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I wish it well in its bid for freedom. No doubt it’s on its way to a festival. I just hope it doesn’t get caught in traffic - and not for its sake.McGingersnaphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01831573898644358843noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4903641323498241711.post-25346851423598653972019-07-21T00:51:00.002-07:002019-07-24T14:15:53.454-07:00My arse is cancer-free!I thought I'd write a quick post to wrap up the series on anal cancer. I realise I've given a big old spoiler with that title, but most of you reading this will already know I've been given the all-clear.<br />
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When the oncologist told me, I felt like I'd lost 12 stone (and I was only 7 stone 4 to start with). Allow me to depict my sense of relief through the medium of gif:<br />
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It's been a strange old time though. After breezing through chemoradiotherapy in ridiculously high spirits, I started feeling low about a month after treatment ended. Going to the bog no longer felt like passing hot coals, and my undercarriage was no longer sporting blisters. But I was knackered all the time (even more than usual) and my brain felt like candy floss. I got frustrated. I wanted my life back.<br />
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I'm still knackered all the time. My brain still feels like candy floss. I still want my life back.<br />
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I'd also forgotten that, horrible as it is to have a serious illness, it doesn't half give you a sense of purpose. Since I found out the treatment was successful, I've felt enormously relieved (see gif, above), but also quite a lot like this guy:<br />
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<br />McGingersnaphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01831573898644358843noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4903641323498241711.post-43659155156656068522019-03-24T01:52:00.000-07:002019-03-24T20:13:26.199-07:00Dildoes on the NHSToday's title is currently top of my list of phrases I never thought I'd type, but it's true. The National Health Service has provided me with a set of multi-sized sex toys.<br />
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They slot into one another like pornographic matryoshka dolls. And look! They even gave me a bottle of lube! Better still, they come in a discreet white case for convenient portability. Simply pop them in your handbag and head on out to the opera. Or a fetish club. ANYWHERE!<br />
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OK, OK, so officially they're "dilators" rather than dildoes, and they do serve a legitimate clinical purpose. Pelvic radiotherapy can leave you with scar tissue in the lady parts, making you less...what's the word? Stretchy? Accommodating? Anyway, the point is, if left unattended your front bottom may end up being unable to withstand anything wider than a small pipette. (No, I don't know why you'd insert a small pipette in there either. It was the first image that came to mind. Leave me alone.)<br />
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So, you start with the smallest of your State-provided plastic friends and send it into your pleasure garden for a bit of hokey cokey. Repeat until you're ready to move up to the next size. And so forth. In time, you should be able to resume a normal sex life, as well as (hopefully, if treatment worked) a normal toilet-going existence.<br />
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Luckily for me, my radiotherapy plan didn't involve zapping me from the front, so I shouldn't be too badly affected in the love tunnel department. I still reckon I should give my new toys a go. Even if (warning: over-sharing ahead) I couldn't cope with much more than a small pipette in the first place.McGingersnaphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01831573898644358843noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4903641323498241711.post-488805760341728212019-03-12T13:09:00.000-07:002019-03-12T13:40:41.546-07:00Sunburn where the sun don't shine<div style="text-align: justify;">
First things first: I'm now on morphine, so please lower any expectations you may have. The sole reason I still know my arse from my elbow is that only one of those things hurts. I'm currently spending my days getting zapped at the hospital, asleep, off my knockers on painkillers, or smearing various ointments on my undercarriage. So it's an exciting life.</div>
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The blister finally burst, but it's still giving me grief. Anyone who's ever had a popped blister (which, let's face it, is everyone) knows how raw those little sods can be. And mine was a size that - as an old buddy of mine said when she saw a picture of it - made it not so much a blister as a flotation device. </div>
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Anyway, I'm very glad to have the pain relief, because the effects of radiotherapy are akin to having a nasty case of sunburn and I'm certainly feeling those effects now. I even looked in the mirror today to see how my poor little rear was faring. I shan't traumatise you by telling you how it looked. Also, for no particular reason, here is a picture of a baboon.<br />
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My response to this: Yay! Only eight more sessions!<br />
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My arse's response: Oh God. Eight more sessions *whimper*<br />
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The other day, The Independent ran a story about a <a href="https://www.independent.co.uk/environment/nature/comb-jelly-anus-jellyfish-transient-gut-study-a8810526.html" target="_blank">jellyfish that has a transient anus</a>. I wish, my friends. I wish.<br />
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Last week began splendidly, with a gift from one of my cousins.</div>
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By 3am on Saturday morning, however, I was acting like a proper ninja, crawling round my house on my forearms and knees, in the dark. Walking from the bedroom to the bathroom was too painful. Which brings me to the title of this blog post. Those blisters for which I searched fruitlessly the other week were, it would seem, not non-existent at all, just undergoing a slow teleportation from The Dimension of Blisters. In the middle of last week, they arrived <i>en masse</i>. My favourite was this one:</div>
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I called the Cancer Centre's 24-hour hotline. They told me to stop taking the chemo tablets and invest in yet another cream.</div>
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I'm now able to hobble around with a single crutch. When I saw my oncologist today, she was pleased about this, but still classified me as having Grade 3 hand-foot syndrome. Apparently, Grade 3 is as high as it goes. I thought the oncologist said it went up to Grade 4, which made me gape. <i> </i>GRADE 4? I pictured someone with water balloons for feet, bouncing down the road, praying for them not to pop.</div>
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When you embark on any kind of medical treatment, you run the risk of suffering side effects. It gets fun when the doctors prescribe you something to counteract the side effects, then you get side effects from <i>that</i> medication, so they give you something for those side effects, which also has side effects etc etc. This happened to me when my first transplant was failing: I went from high blood pressure to diarrhoea via water retention and gout. Good times.</div>
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So anyway, I wasn't surprised when I was told that both chemotherapy and radiotherapy have side effects. There are the obvious ones, like sickness and diarrhoea, but there are also some unexpected ones, like a craving for artichokes and a sudden passion for tiddlywinks. OK, I made those ones up. But I was told that the chemo I'm taking can cause soreness on the palms of your hands and soles of your feet.</div>
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When I heard this, a subconscious, non-rational part of my brain responded thus: <i>I have never heard of this and it sounds implausible, therefore it definitely won't happen to me.</i></div>
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A few days ago, my feet were hurting. I searched them for non-existent blisters. Had I developed amnesia and forgotten about attending a fire-walking event that went horribly wrong? </div>
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I'd asked one of the radiotherapy staff about managing soreness (albeit in a rather different part of my body) and he'd suggested "double bass". I asked if he meant Diprobase. No, he said, and repeated the name of the recommended cream: double bass.</div>
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I've met a double bass. I'm not smearing one of those things up my crack.</div>
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My Facebook friends have recommended Diprobase or red-top Neutrogena (ie the full-fat version, as opposed to the semi-skimmed blue-top variety I have in my bedside drawer). So they're on this week's shopping list. </div>
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I shan't bore you by telling you all the side effects I'm experiencing, but I will say this: buy shares in Imodium now. </div>
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When I returned, they showed me the scan. The screen was entirely filled by my bladder. However, when they plonked an ultrasound wand on me to check how much liquid was left in there, I still had around 800ml. One-and-a-half cups later and I was ready to go.</div>
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This means that, when I initially hopped on the bed, I had around 1.5 litres in there. I have a 2 litre bottle of Pepsi in the kitchen. The idea that I can hold 3/4 of that in my bladder makes me feel both proud and disturbed. HOW IS THAT EVEN POSSIBLE? It occurs to me that what I thought were my breasts are in fact the rest of my organs, shoved into my chest by a land-grabbing bladder. Whatever - I feel I ought to contact whoever took over from the McWhirter twins at the Guinness Book of Records and ask to be included in the next edition. </div>
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McGingersnaphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01831573898644358843noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4903641323498241711.post-25996022947788456792019-02-06T13:31:00.002-08:002019-02-06T13:31:58.437-08:00Computer says no. Well, it might do. We haven't looked at it.I was meant to be at the Tears for Fears / Alison Moyet gig at the O2 this evening.<br />
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The hospital called me yesterday, telling me I had to go in at 12.30 today to pick up my chemo tablets. It absolutely had to be today, they told me, because there were no other free appointments before I start radiotherapy. (You can’t just pick up your tablets. No, you have to have an appointment where you’re lectured for an hour on how to take them.)<br />
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I have very low energy to start with, so was concerned this might affect my ability to get to the gig. Also, I have to get up and go to the hospital tomorrow morning for 4 hours of blood tests. But I accepted the appointment. Of course I did.<br />
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I turned up at 12.30. My appointment was at 13.30.<br />
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There were no tablets for me to pick up because the doctor hadn‘t written the prescription. And the reason for that is because they won’t know what dose to prescribe until I‘ve had the tests tomorrow WHICH THEY SHOULD HAVE KNOWN I WASN’T GOING TO HAVE UNTIL TOMORROW BECAUSE THAT INFORMATION WILL BE ON THEIR SYSTEM.<br />
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So I’m at home, instead of having a joyous time with musicians I loved back in the 80s.<br />
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Fuck cancer. And administrative incompetence.McGingersnaphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01831573898644358843noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4903641323498241711.post-33829968590582879032019-02-04T05:16:00.000-08:002019-02-04T05:16:34.865-08:00And you'd like that tattoo where, Madam?I knew I was going to have a tattoo before I started radiotherapy, so that the people with the ray guns would know where to attack.<br />
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Given where the cancer is, I thought the tattoo was going to be in a place that meant I would only be able to show it off if I:<br />
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It turned out that none of this was true. I am relieved and yet saddened by this loss of anticipated comic material. I have a tattoo at the top of each thigh and one, um, about half way between the two, on my [insert euphemism of choice]. They're not even interesting tattoos. I was hoping for Japanese symbols that I thought meant "serenity" but actually meant "wanker". They're just dots.</div>
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McGingersnaphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01831573898644358843noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4903641323498241711.post-49756801188468089652019-01-26T12:37:00.000-08:002019-01-26T23:39:32.016-08:00Close encounters with the oncologist...of the nitrile-gloved kind. (At least she had short fingernails.)<br />
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So - I've had my first consultation with the oncologist. Apparently, my tumour is fairly small. Mr Botty-Slicer of St Thomas's Hospital cut most of it out last December, so there's just a 2cm thing left in there. That makes it a Stage II squamous cell carcinoma. Get me with the lingo, eh?<br />
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The oncologist is, I think, eastern European. I could be wrong, but judging from her accent and the fact that I can neither spell nor pronounce her name, that's what I'm going with.<br />
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She spent ages showing me my scans and explaining treatment options to me. My body contains enough kidneys to feed a family of five, so they won't be able to use the standard radiotherapy / chemotherapy treatment on me. It might kill off the only one of those kidneys that I actually need. (I'd be quite happy for someone to take the other ones away and keep them in the freezer. Seriously - they're just taking up space.)<br />
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The doc explained that, instead of the usual cocktail of chemotherapies and radiation blasts, I can only have very focused blasts and probably only one of the chemotherapy types (and possibly not have any chemo at all). The usual treatment has a 90% success rate. It's difficult to say how much my chances will be affected by the less severe treatment plan I'll need.<br />
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The alternative, I was told, is to have more surgery, which would result in me needing a colostomy bag. I considered that option for a good 12 milliseconds before saying "Dear God, no - are you barmy?'<br />
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The colostomy option awaits me if radiotherapy is unsuccessful. Let's hope it doesn't come to that. I don't need that as a new party piece - not least because I never go to parties.<br />
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We ended the consultation with her examining me, because no consultation about this condition is complete until someone's poked you in the chocolate starfish. Like I say, at least she had short fingernails.<br />
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Next stop: CT scan on Friday, when they will be tattooing the place they need to point their ray guns at.McGingersnaphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01831573898644358843noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4903641323498241711.post-82778220316933148432019-01-20T23:43:00.000-08:002019-01-26T12:13:56.551-08:00New year, NEW DIAGNOSIS!Hmm. It seems I didn't write a single blog post last year. Not to worry - I have a new subject, bursting with enough humour for a series of posts. WARNING: may also contain trauma. Hopefully the latter will be short-lived (and I'll be long-lived.)<br />
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Those of you scooting over from my Facebook page will know most of this already. In fact, these posts will primarily be for those of my Facebook friends who asked me to write updates.<br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Tomorrow morning, I was planning to donate a small piece of my uterus to the NHS. This would have required me to leave home at an hour that is not so much godforsaken as one that God has shunned and is really rather sorry he ever invented. To ease the pain of this early start, I booked a hotel room close to the hospital.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The aforementioned receptionist informed me that I was on the fourth floor. Naturally, there is no lift, just a winding series of narrow stairways. The receptionist kindly offered to carry my bags for me. I am not proud. I said yes.</span></div>
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I was in my late 20s. I had spent my youth as a good Christian girl but, having lost my faith and moved to the den of vice that is London, I decided to do all the things that good Christian girls don’t do.</div>
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Among other things, this involved a lot of drugs, legal and otherwise.</div>
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One drug that was still legal at the time was GHB. I loved it. It gave a nice buzz and, I was told, increased your metabolic rate. For a young woman who liked getting high and worried about her weight, it was ideal. I mean, it’s basically a cocktail of paint stripper and drain cleaner, but who cares? IT GETS YOU HIGH! IT KEEPS YOU THIN! (OK, so it also gives you terrible acne, but two out of three ain’t bad.)</div>
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Because one of its effects is a raging horniness, GHB was sold in sex shops. I spent an inordinate amount of time (and money) in one particular sex shop in Soho.</div>
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Billy was one of the guys who worked in the sex shop. He was in his late forties, greying, moustachioed, and with a Yorkshire accent heavy enough to anchor the Knock Nevis.</div>
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I adored him. He adored me. We chatted while he worked and went to the pub together during his breaks.</div>
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One evening, he took me to one side. “Rachel,” he said, “you’re a nice girl. But I’ve seen a lot of nice girls come in here, who’ve ended up living on the streets, selling their arses for a fiver. That’s where you're headed.”</div>
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Billy stopped serving me GHB and refused to tell me where the local dealers hung out. He instructed everyone else in the shop to do the same.</div>
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What's that? Oh yes, quite right, Moon, they have jumped to you. I'm afraid they've got you in their sights too, Mars. Yes, that thing rolling around and tickling you? That's made by them, but it's not one of them. Well yes, I suppose it is entertaining for you, given there's nothing else going on in your part of the system, but believe me, you wouldn't want billions of the creators of that little vehicle swarming all over you. It's a nightmare. Luckily for you, they're a long way from being able to survive on you for any period of time, even if they've managed to land things on you. Well, I say that, but they move very quickly. It only seem like yesterday they climbed down from the trees – my beautiful trees! – and started walking upright. Which was a bad idea; I thought so at the time. Their spines clearly hadn't evolved for that kind of movement. Mind you, them moaning about their back pain is the least of my worries.</div>
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I realise this is difficult for most of you to relate to; you're largely lumps of rock or gigantic balls of gas. In fact, has anyone else evolved conscious life forms? Just three of you? And how are you finding it? Yours did what? Oh dear, I am sorry. Yes, I can see the hole from here. And they're gone now, you say? Gone where? Oh, just … gone. That's rather sad but, you know, probably for the best.</div>
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Look, most of them are all right. The ones that don't walk upright – there's loads of them, different kinds – they just get on with their lives, reproduce and die. Well, OK, a lot of them eat each other, but sadly that seems to be part of the system I've developed. I really didn't mean to. </div>
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Even most of the upright ones are decent enough, though they're not very nice to the not-so-upright ones. Arrogant, really. It's just that there are so many of them, and they have a tendency to huddle in tribes and look at other tribes as if the others were a disease and they were the immune system. So they attack each other. </div>
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What's that? Oh, mostly with words, which is unpleasant, but also with laws, which is more unpleasant. But the thing that really worries me is when they attack each other with weapons. That's painful. And they create new, more powerful weapons all the time. Excuse me? Yes, exactly – the sort of weapons that did that to your face. I really am sorry about that, by the way. Does it still hurt? Good lord – right down to your mantle? Blimey. Well, I'm glad it's getting better. My lot appear to have pulled back from that for the time being, but – as I say – they move very quickly and things are changing all the time. So who knows? I can't say I relish the prospect of that kind of pummelling.</div>
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But do you have any advice? How do I get them to understand that they're all a part of me? Yes, please, by all means – if yours have moved beyond that phase, tell me what you did. Oh. Right. You let the violent ones evolve out of existence. Lots of casualties along the way. Hmm. And how long did that take?</div>
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No, no, it's not that I think they're going to destroy me completely, though they probably could. It's just – I'm not sure they'll last that long.</div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Even being here feels like an admission of defeat. I tell him this, in
his Harley Street office, when he asks me what I want. I tell him I've spent
half my life trying to accept my fat face, and I've failed. So I'm here to find
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with qualifications from both Oxford and Cambridge – is simultaneously intimidating and reassuring. He sits in an armchair at right angles to me, legs crossed,
his posture relaxed and confident. He has my registration form in front of him,
my extensive list of medication scrawled in tiny letters to fit into the space
provided. He knows I'm a transplant patient, on a bucketful of pills that suppress
my immune system and interfere with wound healing, together with a supporting cast
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">He hands me a mirror and asks me to point out the parts that bother me.
The familiar feeling of disgust rises as I lift the glass to my face. I'm
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">God I look good. I should hold my face like this all the time. 'I'd be
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">He takes the mirror from me, puts it back on the table and resumes his
pose in the armchair. He tells me what buccal fat is, describes the procedure
for removing it, the results of the operation (variable but subtle) and the
risks it entails. The infection risk would be significantly higher for me but,
in any event, buccal fat removal won't give me the result I want. That, he
explains, would require a combination of a face lift and liposuction. He goes
into some detail about this, too, before telling me that he would be unwilling
to perform the operation because, with my level of immunosuppression, the risks
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I'll always have fat cheeks,' I say. 'Or become anorexic,' I add, 'but that
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">I stand up and thank him for being forthright and professional. We shake
hands. As he opens the door, he tells me he won't charge his usual consultation
fee. 'We've only had a little chat,' he says. And I suppose we have, though our
conversation was far longer and friendlier than my rendering of it suggests. I
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">It is raining outside, so I put up my umbrella and start walking back to
Charing Cross station. I joked with the surgeon about anorexia. What I didn't
tell him is that I was anorexic in my twenties, with a sideline in bulimia on
the occasions when I actually had food in my stomach to puke up. My eating
disorder was driven in large part by my desire for a thin face, but even when I
was a dangerously underweight five stone ten, it was still disproportionately
large. Had I bleached my hair and worn black and white stripes, I could have
got a job as a belisha beacon.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">It is rush hour: the streets of London are filled with people scurrying
through the downpour, using umbrellas and hoods to protect themselves. Others
improvise: in a doorway, a woman smokes a cigarette, an upturned Prêt-à-Manger
bag jammed on her head as a makeshift hat. I weave through the crowds, lifting
and lowering my own umbrella to avoid stabbing eyes out with the spokes. </span></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Why can't I accept my face as it is?</span></i><span style="font-family: inherit;">
I wonder. </span><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Am I really that shallow?</span></i><span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">It's an unsettling question because, on this issue at least, the evidence
points to a resounding 'Yes'. And that's not how I like to think of myself. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">I know I'm not monstrously disfigured; I simply have a plump face that time
and gravity are beginning to drag earthwards. I hated my cheeks ten years
ago, yet I know that if I look at photographs of my 35-year-old self, I think I
look okay. Unfortunately, that doesn't help: I was unhappy then, and
retrospective approval isn't going to change that. By the same token, knowing
that a 55-year-old Rachel may look approvingly at photos from 2016 doesn't make me feel any better now.</span></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">How can I learn to accept this?</span></i><span style="font-family: inherit;">
I ask myself. It is not a foot-stamping rhetorical question; it's a request to
my subconscious for aid. </span><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Our reserve
option – the one we'd trigger only if all else failed – we've just been told it
isn't viable. So what now? Help me figure it out.</span></i></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">As I reach the Garrick Theatre I hear a loud voice followed by cheers. I
glance towards the noise and glimpse a crowd in Trafalgar Square. Probably
something to do with Brexit – I hazily recall there was to be a pro-Remain
rally in central London this evening. So much turmoil in the world around me
and here I am, consumed by a pseudo-drama concocted entirely by my own mind. I
am too tired for self-recrimination, but also too tired to join the
demonstration. I keep walking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">My train pulls out of the station and stalls halfway across Hungerford
Bridge. The driver of the train in front of us is having trouble closing the
doors, so we're stuck here until he moves. Meanwhile, in my head a train of
thought starts inching forward.</span></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Maybe what I need to accept is not
my fat cheeks, but that I will never be happy with them. Perhaps I need to
accept that I may always feel a degree of revulsion when I look in a mirror.</span></i></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">It's a depressing prospect, but at least it sounds achievable.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The driver in front of us has solved his door problem and we're rolling again.
So is my train of thought.</span></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">If I can accept the disgust, then maybe
I'll be able to get some distance from it, see it as nothing more than a series
of thoughts, emotions and sensations. And perhaps that, in turn, will start to
loosen this noxious plant, however deep its roots have grown.</span></i></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">A glimmer of hope lights up. It is dim and my gut tells me not to cling
to it, not to snuff it out with expectation. But it's a possibility. Maybe.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The train has picked up speed; raindrops lash against the windows and
commuters sway as we lurch around bends in the track. I try not to cry, but a
few tears squeeze out and start trickling. I wipe them away with a tissue.
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Sadness, disappointment and hope mingle. </span></div><div style="line-height: 125%; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><br></span></div><div style="line-height: 125%; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><br></span></div><div style="line-height: 125%; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">It's still raining, but
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Emma's face was crestfallen as she hurried over to the mess. 'No no no,' she thought to herself. 'This is not at all the impression I wanted to make on Mrs Elton.' Fragments of glass were strewn across the carpet and a sharp breeze entered through the now uncovered window. 'Does nobody appreciate how hard it is to get a glazier in Highbury?' she muttered.</div>
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Her startled guests made their way over to the buffet table. They were led by Mr Elton, who pointedly avoided looking at Harriet Smith as he passed her. Before long, the crowd had gathered around the object whose intrusion had interrupted their evening.</div>
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It was human in shape, except that it was far larger than the average man, with green and scaly skin, and large spikes on its back and elbows. 'I say,' exclaimed Mrs Elton. 'My friends in Bath will be most amused to hear about this. I never expected such extraordinary entertainment, Miss Woodhouse.' Emma's face fell even further, and she looked to Mr Knightley for assistance.</div>
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'I shall fetch a broom,' announced Mr Knightley. 'Come, Miss Bates, you shall aid me.' He strode from the room, followed by the spinster who, for once, had no comment to offer.</div>
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The partygoers were so intent on the strange sight before them that nobody noticed when a young blonde woman entered the room clutching a small sharp stick. The woman pushed through the throng and examined the scene.</div>
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'Excuse me,' said Emma. 'Who are you?'</div>
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'Hi. I'm Buffy.' She gave Emma a sheepish smile. 'I'm really sorry about the mess.'</div>
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'Do you mean to tell me that you are responsible for throwing this dummy through my window?'</div>
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Buffy frowned. 'Dummy?'</div>
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Emma held out her hand towards the buffet table. 'This thing.'</div>
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'Oh that. That's not a dummy. Well, he wasn't the sharpest tool in the cupboard, but no – that's a body. Of a demon.'</div>
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Emma sighed. 'Don't be ridiculous, Miss … Buffy. Do you have another name?'</div>
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'Summers?'</div>
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'Miss Summers. I demand that you explain yourself. Preferably without resorting to absurdities.'</div>
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'Right. I was on my way here, to this party, when I found this guy outside. Anyway, we got into a fight, I kicked him, and he flew a lot further than I was expecting. Never mind though, he's dead now.'</div>
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The body on the table groaned and raised its head. Emma and her guests drew back and gasped. Buffy raised her stick and stabbed the creature in the throat. It let out another groan and its head fell back onto the table. 'Like I say, dead.'</div>
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'But what are you doing here?' asked Emma.</div>
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'She's from the former colonies,' said Jane Fairfax.</div>
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'That would explain her outlandish attire,' added Mrs Elton.</div>
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Buffy shot a withering glance at Mrs Elton. 'Hey, corset lady, I want your opinion on fashion, I'll ask for it.'</div>
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Harriet Smith smiled. 'I rather like this Miss Summers,' she said.</div>
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'Right. Quick version: I've been sent here to kill a vampire. I hate to break it to you, but one of your guests here is a creature of the night.'</div>
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Emma raised her eyebrows. 'So let me get this straight. You kick a half-dead demon through my window and now you want to kill one of my guests. I can see why you have to turn up at parties unannounced. I can't imagine you receive many invitations.'</div>
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'Oh, you'd be surprised,' said Buffy, and began peering at the people standing around her. She walked slowly towards Mr Elton, narrowing her eyes.</div>
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'I recently had a very bad experience with a clergyman,' she said. 'Had to cut him in half with an axe.'</div>
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Mr Elton laughed nervously. 'You can't possibly think that I'm a vampire,' he said. 'I'm a pillar of the community.' Buffy's eyes narrowed still further. Mr Elton continued: 'Really, young lady, your search will be much more fruitful if you look to people who are less – respected, shall we say.' His eyes sought out Harriet. Buffy's eyes followed.</div>
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Mrs Elton sighed. 'Truly, Miss Summers. Do you honestly believe my husband to be a craven, blood-sucking beast?'</div>
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'Yeah, I do,' replied Buffy. 'But he's not a vampire. Just a weasel. You're safe for now, preacher boy.'<br />
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'It's really no trouble at all,' he replied, 'I do like to be helpful.'</div>
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Emma walked over from the table and touched the man's sleeve. 'My dear Mr Knightley, you've cut yourself.'</div>
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He looked down. 'So I have. Not to worry. I shall clean myself up later.' He smiled broadly, his perfect teeth glimmering in the lamplight. Only they weren't entirely perfect.</div>
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'You been sweeping up with your mouth?' asked Buffy.</div>
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'Only I can't help noticing you've got blood on your teeth.'</div>
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'Oh dear,' said Mr Knightley. 'I was hoping it wouldn't come to this.' His forehead furrowed; his eyes turned amber and feral; his still bloody canines grew until they protruded below his lips.</div>
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'Where is Miss Bates?' cried Jane Fairfax. 'We must find Miss Bates.'</div>
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Buffy rubbed her hands together and grinned at Harriet. 'Thank you,' she said. Harriet replied with an awkward curtsey.</div>
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Miss Fairfax entered the room dragging a barely conscious Miss Bates, who was mumbling to herself: 'Always thought him such a gentleman, terribly handy with a trowel, shall never recover from the shock…'</div>
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Emma's face was more crestfallen than ever. 'And yet, only now, I realise that I loved him,' she cried.</div>
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'I suppose I ought to thank you,' said Emma, 'but whatever shall I do without him?'</div>
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'Not bleed to death when he's thirsty, for a start,' said Buffy. 'Look, I know it's hard, but you'll find a way. I had to send my boyfriend to Hell once. That was tough. I mean, he came back and it was all OK in the end, which I don't think is going to happen here, and I'm really not helping at all, am I? I think I'll just – you know – shut up and leave.'</div>
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'Back to the Americas?' asked Jane Fairfax.</div>
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'Something like that,' replied Buffy. She jumped onto the table and threw the demon's body out of the window. 'Oh, one last thing,' she said, turning around.</div>
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<span style="color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.32px;">A. Dashing out of the class to make sure you get to the toilets in time, leaving your mat for somebody else to put away?</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.32px;">B. Rolling up your mat and puking on the studio floor?</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.32px;">Readers, I took option A. I think it's safe to say I was not in a position to make a good first impression. I have, however, learned two things:</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #141823; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19.32px;">1. I care far too much about what strangers think of me.</span></span></div>
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McGingersnaphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01831573898644358843noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4903641323498241711.post-48618984211677865372015-10-23T10:33:00.000-07:002015-10-23T10:56:41.309-07:00In Praise of HopelessnessFriends: if you ask me to meet you and I say no, it isn't because I don't want to. It's because long experience has taught me that unless I can get to our meeting place within half an hour, chances are I won't be well enough to come and I'll let you down. Or, if I do make it, I'll need a couple of days to recover.<br />
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If you know me (or have read the rest of this blog) you'll know I've had three kidney transplants. I've never had very much energy: whether this is connected to my kidney problems, 25 years of immuno-suppression or is something entirely separate, I don't know. But it's got worse over time. I sleep 10-12 hours a day - sometimes more. When I'm awake, I'm mostly foggy-headed and tired.</div>
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I've also had back pain for the last 15 years or so. Despite spending thousands of pounds on different treatments, this too has got worse. There's nothing structurally wrong with my back and the pain specialists at my local hospital say that I'll probably always have it. The exercise regimes prescribed for me sometimes reduce the immediate pain but have not produced any long-term improvements.</div>
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At this point, I'd like to say that yes, I know I have a lot to be grateful for and yes, I know that many people have things far, far worse. Including some of the people who are likely to read this.</div>
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But the pain and the tiredness have increasingly restricted my ability to live the life I want. When people say "I hope you feel better soon", I know they mean well but it feels like yet more pressure to achieve something that I have been chasing fruitlessly for almost two decades.</div>
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So I'm giving up hope.</div>
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To devotees of positive thinking, this sounds defeatist.</div>
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It really isn't.</div>
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I'm giving up hope because I'm tired of bashing my head against the walls of reality and blaming myself for being unable to punch through. </div>
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Because I'm tired of fighting to maintain a hope that is tantamount to delusion.</div>
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Because as long as I'm gazing over the rainbow and dreaming of Oz, I'm not making the most of Kansas.</div>
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Because as long as I'm yearning for the landscapes beyond my prison walls, I'm not seeing that my cell is actually quite spacious and comfortable. I'm not seeing all the things I could do in here. I'm not contemplating the possibility that, even if I can't do very much, maybe that doesn't necessarily mean I'm a waste of space whose life is worthless. (My mind <i>really</i> rebels against that idea: THOU SHALT ACHIEVE, DAMMIT!)</div>
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Because sometimes the best way to hold things together is by letting an unsustainable reality fall apart.</div>
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And because, sometimes, giving up hope is the most optimistic thing you can do.</div>
McGingersnaphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01831573898644358843noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4903641323498241711.post-46436402722098484232015-07-14T03:32:00.001-07:002015-07-14T03:32:23.606-07:00Call My Bluff: 'deskill'My writing group has disbanded for the summer. At our last meeting, we played Call My Bluff. I wrote this definition of 'deskill'. If you're a big fan of Margaret Thatcher, you may not like it. Or you might. Who knows?<br />
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The verb 'to deskill' was coined by Margaret Thatcher in the 1980s, who was horrified to see that members of the working class (and even people from the North) were rising through the ranks of society to take jobs that properly belonged to their betters.<br />
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<i>I may be a grocer's daughter, but daddy was a very big cheese in the world of food retail, and his Granny Smiths were enormous too. No, no, Denis, don't make the Cox joke.</i><br />
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She realised that if nothing were done to stop this, it wouldn't be long before Parliament was overrun by MPs who were the children of secretaries. Or worse - miners.<br />
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She devised a plan.<br />
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People with a working class background, or from the North, were to be restricted to trivial tasks. Lawyers should spend all day photocopying; surgeons instructed to scrub operating theatres with a toothbrush; and if these upstarts could be partially or entirely replaced by machines, so much the better.<br />
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<i>What do I mean by 'northern'? North of Grantham.</i><br />
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'But how shall we sell this to them, dear Maggie?' cried the employers, puffing on cigars that had been hand-rolled by four-year-olds manacled to a workbench in Havana. 'Sooner or later, they'll notice what we're doing and go on strike. We need a positive spin.'<br />
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'I wouldn't worry about them getting involved in collective bargaining,' said Maggie, and cackled. 'But you're right - we need a neutral-sounding name for it.'<br />
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She sent her minions to the United States, to ask George W Bush for his thoughts, even though, back then, he was a young buck with a cocaine habit, and no-one had heard of him.<br />
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'Deskillification?' he suggested.<br />
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Maggie pondered this. <i>No, that's far too long. it's not like there's a tax on syllables, though that's not a bad idea - write that down, Denis</i>.<br />
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And so the word 'deskill' was born. Employers were not trivialising people's jobs, they were generously making them easier by taking away all the challenging bits and, wherever possible, giving them to machines.<br />
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Maggie was slightly worried that Mr Bush might one day rise to prominence and attempt to claim credit for the word, but reassured herself that nobody with that degree of ineptitudinessnessness would ever amount to anything.<br />
<br />McGingersnaphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01831573898644358843noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4903641323498241711.post-85294419027236952212015-01-14T02:21:00.000-08:002015-01-15T02:50:37.861-08:00That awkward moment when the person you're talking to online tells you Louis XIII is her boyfriend. Yes, *that* Louis XIIII lurk on various blogs. I seldom post, because that might result in me being drawn into a debate and I have a pathological aversion to anything that might conceivably be construed as confrontation, if you stand far enough away from it. In a bad light. While squinting.<br />
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A regular on one of these blogs refers to her boyfriend as Louis and her avatar is of a striking middle-aged man with hair (both head and facial) that does indeed make him look like Louis XIII. I assumed that the chap in the avatar was her boyfriend, that they shared an interest in Louis XIII and that they had a sort of role-play thing going whereby he styled himself (and, if the changing avatar pictures are anything to go by, sometimes dressed) like the Bourbon king. Eccentric, but cute.<br />
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The other day, in a conversation about books, one poster mentioned having enjoyed a series of supernatural romance novels. The regular poster commented that she had her partner were well into that. Supernatural romance fan (or "SRF' for short) asked, with some astonishment, if the regular and her other half had read the books in question, because they'd never met anyone else who had. (From this, you will gather that we're not talking about the Twilight series.) The regular replied that no, they hadn't, but that the two of them were fans of supernatural romance because her lover had crossed over some time ago. I felt saddened by this news and so, apparently, did SRF, who duly expressed condolences. The regular then explained that it was all right, her lover was Louis XIII, so he had died long before she was born.<br />
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At this point, SRF vanished from the conversation. Did they simply think, "I shall pursue this line of inquiry no further" or did they "nope" all the way to Antarctica? Who can tell?<br />
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As delusions go, this one is pretty harmless and seems to make the regular poster happy, so although I was a bit "Okaaaaaaaaaaaaay" about this revelation, it's not something that's going to keep me awake at night. (I hope you will forgive me for assuming that the relationship is imaginary and that she is not genuinely getting freaky with a dead French monarch. It just seems an awful lot more likely.)<br />
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However, I'm now left wondering about the man in her avatar pictures. I mean, unless photography was invented a <i>lot</i> earlier than I thought (or the regular poster has been time-travelling with a camera), he must have lived much more recently than the seventeenth century. So who is he? I'm reluctant to ask, because I rarely post on that forum and blundering in to put the question directly would be rather blunt. Or worse: it might lead to a debate, and we know how I feel about that. The thing is, his face is sort of familiar; I feel like I should recognise him.<br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The last time I drove, I was behind the wheel of a car that had been specially adapted for a friend who'd had a leg amputated. It was spanking new and she had to drive it home from the showroom. Although she only had a learner licence and I had a full licence, I hadn't driven for several years so I told her that, no, really, it would be better for her to drive. Anyway, she managed to get us lost in ten minutes, became stressed out and insisted that I take a turn. Nervous, I got in the driver's seat and tried to work out where we were in relation to her flat. As it turned out, the route back involved going down residential streets with a road-narrowing traffic calming system. My anxiety was not helped by my friend doing some very high-pitched back-seat driving that ascended an octave whenever we came within three feet of, well, anything. Suffice to say I gave the hubcaps a jolly good scraping while steering through the narrow parts of the road. At this point, her voice passed almost beyond the range of human hearing - she shrieked at me to stop the car and let her drive. I was only too happy to comply with this instruction.</span><br />
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'Will you shut up and listen?' Grandad continued. 'He told me he doesn’t like us doing our business in him.' He held up a hand to forestall any further interruptions. 'I know, I know – I told him: "This is what you were made for, mate", but what he said back was this: "So you think the way you start life should dictate the way you spend the rest of it? I don’t even get a choice? Construction isn’t destiny, pal – that’s a deeply reactionary attitude." And, well, I felt he made a good point. I didn’t fight the Nazis just to watch my own country slip into this sort of fascistic determinism.'</span><br />
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'You didn’t fight the Nazis at all,' said Mum. 'You were thirteen when the war ended.'</span><br />
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'That’s not the point,' said Grandad, and started rootling around in a Tupperware box in the pantry.</span><br />
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'What’re you after, Dad?' said Mum.</span><br />
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'Shed key. I need a shovel.' He held up a rusty key and waddled towards the back door. As he opened it, a look of pain passed over his face, and he jammed his fist into his bum-crack. 'And I’m going to need it sharpish.'</span><br />
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Dad’s head snapped up from The Telegraph. 'Oh God, my hydrangeas,' he cried, threw down the newspaper and fled after the old man.</span><br />
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Three days later, everything seemed to return to normal. Grandad put the shovel back in the shed and resumed using the bathroom, explaining to the family that the toilet had landed a job as an art critic for the local newspaper and didn’t mind doing a spot of sewage disposal on the side. </span><br />
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That is to say, they relaxed as much as they ever did these days. Jake heard his parents squabbling through the bedroom wall and counted the days until he left for university. The thought of leaving home was joyous; the thought of being a student less so. University was a time for pranks, hijinks and endless sex with girls who would never expect you to call. Jake knew this: he’d seen enough American sitcoms. Standing in front of the mirror with his shirt off and examining his pudgy frame with disgust, he couldn’t help thinking that his experience of higher education was going to be a disappointment. </span><br />
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<i>My tits are bigger than mum’s. I am never going to get laid.</i></span><br />
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And so a relatively uneventful week slipped by, culminating with the family’s ritual Sunday gathering around the dining table, where Mum presented her clan with a traditional roast, though it was less traditional these days, Jake having forsworn meat, when he wasn’t forswearing all food not in the form of a low-carb snack bar.</span><br />
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'Smells nice, love,' said Dad, straining a smile at his wife. The Quorn roast was burned but the baked potatoes emitted a pleasant aroma, so this was not entirely untrue. </span><br />
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'Thank you,' replied Mum, and smoothed her hair with a hand that was still inside an oven glove.</span><br />
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Jake looked glumly at the brimming serving dishes. 'Where’s Grandad?'</span><br />
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Mum sighed and stood up. 'I’ll get him.'</span><br />
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She found the old man sitting in the conservatory, reading a book. He was wearing flip-flops. And nothing else. Except for the contents of a tub of Lurpak, which he had smeared all over his limbs and torso. The empty pack lay accusingly on the coffee table, the lid and foil by his feet.</span><br />
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An entire weather system of emotions flitted over Mum’s face. 'Dad?'</span><br />
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He looked up from his book. 'What day is it, dear?'</span><br />
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'Sunday.'</span><br />
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Grandad laughed. 'Don’t be silly. It was Sunday last week.'</span><br />
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Lunch was a solemn affair, with Mother absent while Jake and his father chewed in silence, all enjoyment banished by appetite-killing images of a naked relative who was far more effectively basted than the fake roast they were eating. When it was over, and Mum had returned to the dining room, Dad made an announcement: 'We need to have a family meeting.' Mum stood up to clear the table, but Dad put a hand on her arm. 'Now.'</span><br />
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'I think we all know that things have been difficult since Grandad moved in. We’ve tried to make the best of it, but it’s not working. We,' – Dad looked at Mum – 'have never fought so much. And you' – looking at Jake – 'are spending more time on your Xbox than ever. You must have thwarted eighteen global terror threats in the last fortnight.'</span><br />
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'What are you saying?' asked Mum. 'We should put Grandad into a home?'</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Dad exhaled loudly. 'I don’t see what choice we have. We can’t look after him if he’s going … doolally.'</span><br />
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Mum’s face looked sad, but her shoulders relaxed. Jake said nothing as Mum put up a token protest. The boy hadn’t seen such poor acting since his primary school’s Nativity Play, when the Angel Gabriel wet himself and Mary couldn’t stop laughing. Dad batted away Mum’s objections with ease and, within ten minutes, it was decided: Grandad would have to go somewhere to be looked after by professionals.</span><br />
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The door was answered by a middle-aged chap in a white uniform. Grandad was standing by the kettle in the kitchen, holding a teabag aloft. 'Billy, listen: I know you’re scared of the hot water, but I assure you, I have never once met a teabag that didn’t love it when it got in there.' Noticing his grandson in the doorway, he looked over and waved with his free hand. 'Hello Jake. Jolly good of you to come and visit your old Gramps. I see you’ve met Step-Hen.'</span><br />
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The middle-aged man smiled wearily. 'It’s Stephen. Nice to meet you.' He cleared his throat and lowered his voice. 'You might want to help your Grandad out with the tea. I’m not sure he’s safe around boiling water.'</span><br />
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Jake nodded. 'Don’t worry, I’ll take it from here.'</span><br />
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Jake pointed at the kettle. 'Shall I do that, Grandad?'</span><br />
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Grandad shook his head. 'No need. I know Stephen worries about me, but I’m fine.'</span><br />
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'Oh. So you can say his name, then.'</span><br />
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'Of course I can. Listen Jake, I want to tell you something, but you have to promise not to tell your parents.'</span><br />
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Jake sighed. 'Sure.'</span><br />
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'There’s nothing wrong with me.'</span><br />
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Jake blushed. “If you say so.'</span><br />
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'No, really. It was obvious from the word ‘go’ that your Dad didn’t like having me in the house. I may be old but I’m not stupid. Or deaf. I heard them – arguing about me day and night they were.'</span><br />
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Jake looked quizzical.</span><br />
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'So I thought, "How can I make it easy for them to get me out of the house?" Acting bonkers seemed like an idea, so I went for it. And here I am.'</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Jake’s mouth fell open. 'You sly old dog. Really?'</span><br />
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'Really. Now. You still take artificial sweeteners?'</span>McGingersnaphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01831573898644358843noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4903641323498241711.post-24311839331309760552014-03-12T22:59:00.001-07:002014-03-12T22:59:09.179-07:00Making pasta, the McGingersnap wayUsually, it is Mrs McGingersnap who makes the meals in our household. Last night, however, she was very tired and I was very hungry, so I offered to do the honours. Simply follow the step-by-step instructions below to obtain the same results I did.<br />
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<li>Take one pack of pre-filled cappelletti.</li>
<li>Take one jar of pre-prepared tomato and chilli pasta sauce.</li>
<li>Fill a large pan with water and put on the hob to boil.</li>
<li>Decide, three minutes later, that the water is taking too long to boil and move the pan to a more powerful hob ring. Slightly singe eyebrows in the process.</li>
<li>When water is finally boiling, empty pack of cappelletti into the pan.</li>
<li>Let cappelletti cook for 3-5 minutes. Don't time this: just sort of guess.</li>
<li>Move pan from hob to sink and drain cappelletti through a colander. Make sure the colander slips so that half the cappelletti end up in the washing-up bowl.</li>
<li>Swear a bit. </li>
<li>Decide, after careful consideration, not to use dirty sieve to rescue cappelletti from the dishwater.</li>
<li>Pour cappelletti from the colander back into the pan and replace pan on the hob.</li>
<li>Add half a jar of sauce.</li>
<li>Stir in the sauce over a medium heat until the sauce looks like it might be vaguely warm.</li>
<li>Serve.</li>
<li>Eat one cappelletto. Tell yourself it is not underdone, it is <i>al dente</i>. Tastes a bit weird though. And it's lukewarm.</li>
<li>Heat in microwave for approximately 1 minute.</li>
<li>Eat more cappelletti. </li>
<li>No, this really does taste weird.</li>
<li>Go to kitchen. Note that the jar of tomato and chilli sauce remains intact and that what you have opened (and added to the pasta) is, in fact, the jar of pre-prepared sweet and sour sauce that was also out on the counter.</li>
<li>Apologise to partner.</li>
<li>Feel like a failure.</li>
<li>Eat the cappelletti anyway. </li>
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